It was just recently pointed out that my long term girlfriend, Kelly, has become co-dependent on me. And I don’t mean that the lady is needy and consequently only wishes to spend a lot of time with me, I mean she has got to do every little thing with me or she won’t do anything. I mean that she goes out of her way to be able to “care for me” even though I don’t require that and this hurts her and consequently complicates her life. She seems to have an actual disorder, co-dependency is a true thing. I assume men and women who are co-dependent tend to be everyday people who have got an unhealthy love regarding another person and also demonstrate that love in harmful ways. I usually just applied that as the kidding around phrase for clingy, little did I realize i actually would face the actual thing.
Her co-dependency was first pointed out to me personally by a number of of my guy friends, such as my very best friend Shane, however i actually blew these guys off. I figured their merely folks that are bored and also jealous that i actually have a sweetheart that loves me as much as this lady does. Then her pals pointed it out which I considered was in fact a bit odd, these people were actually concerned about her. But again, i actually shrugged the idea off. Then the woman’s mom and dad and in addition my own parents said to me that they couldn’t help but feel there was something more than just excessive clinginess going on. That’s whenever I recognized that there a serious problem.
We went to a counselor who is an expert in relationships and marriage. It was there that they told us that Kelly was in deed co-dependent. She is in love with me to some unhealthy extreme. She won’t go to the grocery store or perhaps have any kind of a real meal without me. She won’t see her friends or loved ones without me. She won’t function properly without me. Furthermore, the lady leaves work to make me cupcakes or something and carry them to my own work. And even if she gets in trouble for that and is skating on thin ice over at her work, she still does it purely because she really feels she has to take care of me.
This has to change if the lady is to get healthy as well as if we are too last, and currently the situation is, it is actually not probable that we can last, which simply sucks. The doctor wants her to keep coming back again for therapy. Her father and mother wish for her to go to Co-dependency Anonymous. This throws me off. What is co-dependency anonymous? There can’t genuinely be a co-dependency anonymous the same as there is an alcoholic’s anonymous. It’s not really that awful of a problem. And precisely what might that call for and also just how will that help? Seriously, exactly what is co-dependency anonymous?